Invisible Women -- Age and Sex


We read this feedback from one of our readers with dismay. We know that now, at 20 and 30 something, we're already fighting an uphill battle to have a confident, assertive sexuality as attractive young women. And this shows that it will only get worse?! This is going to change.
I am 65 yrs old, I am one of many 'invisible' women. Not a comfortable place to be. Check out 'senior' sites on the net. Information found is about care givers..nursing homes..medicare etc. ad nauseum. Most 'porn' sites refer to senior ladies as 35/45 years old. True senior men are applauded for their continued interest in sex. Where am I??? Dead??? Out to pasture??? Still knitting and scrubbing floors?? Not hardly!!!! Our sexual needs and wants are just as intense as someone younger. The experience may change, but everyone's sexual encounters change...from say what one felt or wanted at 18 as to when one was 25/30. Wish some one would resurrect the 'invisible' woman and let the world know it is ok for us to want and need sex. There is no 'magic' age that one turns off!

I just know from my friends that they still 'feel' sexy, love & wear lovely lingerie and still enjoy men very much. They deeply resent the fact that men can reach down through decades and find someone to share their needs and wants. One single lady does have a delightful relationship with a much younger man. She is decidedly upset because they can't be open about how they feel about each other. Men also have the approval of society when they accomplish this. Women do not have that privilege. A talk show did a segment on this subject with 20/25 year old men who lived with or married to over 55/60 year old women. The disapproval from the audience was overwhelming. Questions from the audience were very demeaning, does she have money, you are perverted, are your children older than your lover, did you always want to sleep with your son? etc. Are men asked these questions? Most of the women were quite beautiful & sexy. Well I see I am back on my 'soap box' again.

Thank you for letting me bend your ear on my "pet peeve". I have been cheated out of many many years of enjoyment...now it seems society is bent on leaving me and my generation in the 'shame on you dirty old woman' category.

If you'd like to help paint a more accurate picture of women and sex over the age of 35, then check out this survey on how sexuality changes with one's age and station in life.